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Hi, I'm the bottom of Tats' navel, where some guilt still lurks - Tactical Ninja

Apr. 17th, 2012

10:00 am - Hi, I'm the bottom of Tats' navel, where some guilt still lurks

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From:pombagira
Date:April 17th, 2012 12:00 am (UTC)
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fighting with YoT, i figure two things.. 1/ pretty normal in that becoming an independent unit of human,which seems to be a thing with parents and children and a good thing to.. and 2/YoT is now feeling safe enough in his home setting to have said fight with the consequents not being A/ violent and or 2/degrading, so to speak.. yes yelly at times, yes hard but still safe.. *coughs*.. yeah

also today is better, its nicer that way plus there is sewing.. could be a correlation *ponders this*.. combine with just feeling and letting it full the vessel and then pour over the sides until it was once again empty..

err dose that make sense?

also **hugs returned 100fold*
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From:clashfan
Date:April 17th, 2012 01:27 am (UTC)
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Wot she said. It's normal for teens and parents to argue, even about silly stuff. It's part of the process of them becoming independent adults. The trick is to remember to fight fair--no name-calling, no You always or You never, that sort of thing. Showing him that people can argue and still treat each other decently, showing respect for each other. And that you still love him.

I'm told that the advanced-level stuff is all about discussing the behaviour in question and not the person, but that might be beyond me. 'Sides, I don't have a kid myself, so it's kinda theoretical anyway.
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From:tatjna
Date:April 17th, 2012 05:15 am (UTC)
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There was a mutual apology session when I got home from work this evening, and the thing that was argued over was fixed. All good.

It's always the behaviour in these things, never the person. I learned that lesson well through having the 'you are a ..' argument applied to me.
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From:clashfan
Date:April 17th, 2012 02:03 pm (UTC)
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See? Very clearly, you're Doing It Right.
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