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Mar. 22nd, 2011

10:08 am - Juxtaposition fail

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The final snot test came back negative, as we all knew it would. The vet now wants to have another consultation with First. She's still calling it sinusitis and says the fact that the discharge has slowed down demonstrates that the antibiotics may have had an effect, therefore it might be worth adding anti-inflammatories to the antibiotics to see if that makes it go away. She's talking about a three week time frame to test this and see if it works.

The thing is, First seems to be getting worse. She's now got a slight discharge from one eye (the same side as the nose) and is holding her head slightly on one side. She's still eating fine whereas everything I've read about sinusitis says it will put a dog off its food. And her breathing is getting more laboured. I'm willing to give the anti-inflammatories a go because reducing swelling inside her nose will help with the breathing and the breathing is the biggest quality-of-life issue. I don't know if she's acting more tired because she's sick or because breathing is hard. Her first course of antibiotics finished last week.

Anyway, she has an appointment for this evening at which I'll have the difficult conversation with the vet. Yes, I'm prepared to try this but we need to set a time limit and it's ok to talk about the possibilities for it to not be fixable. Bleh.


Someone mentioned nocturnal emissions in my post yesterday, and it reminded me of something. I had one the other night.

Yes, women have them. At least, I do. I can't speak for other women but I'm hell curious about it because it's not something people tend to talk about and therefore I have no idea. Men's ones are well-documented because they produce.. evidence. But there seems to be a tacit assumption that women just don't.

Yesterday I was surprised to discover how many women had also spent some part of their teenage years wanting to be a man. Again, I'm not that unusual but again, folks don't talk about it so I didn't know.

I realise that this is a more taboo subject but fuckit, I think sexuality should be talked about more openly and walking my talk is the only way I can think of to change anything, so here goes. If you have an issue with this, stop reading now.

As you all know I'm currently living away from my partner. Like most folks I deal with the lack of sex associated with this separation by wanking. I'm a reasonably regular wanker and I use it as a barometer for my emotional state - if I'm not wanking regularly, I'm not well. Lately I haven't been wanking. There's been every intention but I've been falling asleep instead, unable to muster the enthusiasm, so to speak. Consequently, I hadn't had an orgasm for about three weeks.

*cue gasps of horror here*

I know I know, first world problems etc. Thing is, when I'm in the mental state where I'm not wanking, I don't miss them. It's not that big a deal. At least, consciously it isn't. My subconscious seems to have other ideas. So the other night, in the middle of a completely innocuous dream about driving my car around an Asian country market, I had an orgasm. This isn't the first time this has happened - usually (I think) I remember them* and usually they aren't even sex dreams as such. Although sometimes they are, more often there's a random associated reason that has nothing to do with sex. I'm not sure I'm quite brazen enough to describe the circumstances because they are often dream-bizarre, but they're mostly not sex and when they are sex it's usually with someone completely inappropriate.

*cough*

This has happened enough for me to think that it's a natural feature of my biology - my body needs to have an orgasm every now and then and if I don't sort it, nature takes over and floods my brain with orgasm-goodness-hormones. I'm curious if this happens to other women too - partly because it seems natural and normal, and partly because it'd go a long way to refute that bullshit myth about women and sex/orgasms not being a drive for us.

And you know? The day after that happened was the day my head started to feel better. So even if I am a unicorn (which I doubt), I am currently thinking a) nature is awesome, b) folks should wank more for their mental health, and c) maybe I should spend some time trying to direct my dreams into ones I don't wake up from and cringe on the realisation that I had a nocturnal emission over it. O.o

* Which raises a question for the men. You guys tend to have evidence when you've done this whereas teh laydeez don't. So you'd know you had one whether you remembered it or not. My question is, does this happen at times and you don't remember it, only knowing it's happened through evidence? Because this would imply it probably happens more often for me too.


Lalala, oversharing since 1970!

Um, so now everyone's looking everywhere but at me and shuffling their feet embarrassedly, I'm gonna just leave you with this:



Bunny is giving you all the side-eye!

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From:rivet
Date:March 21st, 2011 09:32 pm (UTC)
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Ditto for me, as described. Except my brain produces 'sex with inappropriate people' dreams rather than 'random orgasm in mundane dream'.
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From:tyellas
Date:March 22nd, 2011 07:15 pm (UTC)
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Thirded. Sex with inappropriate people dreams. And, last time this happened, surprisingly erotic use of maple syrup, again in the dream.
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From:tatjna
Date:March 21st, 2011 10:48 pm (UTC)
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My car. A Galant. I shall expect my kickback from Mitsubishi shortly.

Also, I was pushing it up a hill at the time. Yes, I'm weird, but you knew that already.

Don't get me started on gym equipment.
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From:tatjna
Date:March 21st, 2011 11:19 pm (UTC)
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.. and that I get off on pushing it up hills?
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From:ferrouswheel
Date:March 22nd, 2011 12:01 am (UTC)
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I'll "push" you "up hills"!
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From:tatjna
Date:March 22nd, 2011 12:03 am (UTC)
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Excellent. I assume you have better traction than the Galant.

O.o
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From:heartofawarrior
Date:March 21st, 2011 11:42 pm (UTC)
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Glad I'm not the only one who has that happen! It's a rare thing for me these days, but it DOES happen occasionally.

And I find that when I'm stressed, the impulse for self-gratification is basically non-existent, which is EVIL, because it can be fantastic stress relief. *sigh*
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From:ferrouswheel
Date:March 22nd, 2011 12:17 am (UTC)
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Just to be contrary, and because it's something I've been thinking about...

While in the past I've commented that the post-orgasm bliss (at t+1 hour) puts me in an ideal relaxed state to be productive, I've also read that, at least for guys, too much wanking can result in a decreased desire to do other things. This thread (among others in the top post) discusses it a little but nothing particularly scientific except a flawed study:

http://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/fynxr/what_lifestyle_tweaks_have_you_made_that_have/c1jms00

This would correlate well with another study (which I'm too lazy to reference) that indicates a peak in male testosterone levels after 5-6 days without orgasm.

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From:tatjna
Date:March 22nd, 2011 01:26 am (UTC)
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I find sleeping to be very productive, in a recursive kind of way.
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From:tatjna
Date:March 22nd, 2011 01:26 am (UTC)
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According to that thread, every day is too much for productivity. Then it devolves into that Aitioma person whinging about what 'women' want and how he isn't it.

But yes, it seems that according to them 2-3 times a week is optimal (for them anyway).

I have never wanked for productivity. I may have to experiment. For science!
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From:ferrouswheel
Date:March 22nd, 2011 01:30 am (UTC)
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I've rarely done it specifically for productivity. It's mostly been a side effect I've happened to observe ;-)

(But yes, reddit is a mixed bag of chaff with bits of shiny genius. Usually when viewing posts the chaff is downranked and hidden from view but not in this case because I linked to a specific comment thread.)
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From:tatjna
Date:March 22nd, 2011 01:35 am (UTC)
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I just closed that thread after reading the whole thing and am now a bit purple with having to restrain myself from telling that guy a few home truths about his attitude to women and the lack of interest women show in the 'real' him and how these two things might be related. And using the word 'douchebag' even though I hate it.

Instead, I used up all my self control. I now have none. Productivity ahoy! ;-)
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From:vernacularity
Date:March 22nd, 2011 12:40 am (UTC)
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i can perhaps mention having had a few sexy-times dreams which ended up being JUST LIKE A FALLING DREAM, where I suddenly and extremely frustratingly wake up just before "hitting the ground" so to speak. and thus have not "hit the ground". (at least, not then and there as part of the dream.....).

my psyche has some explaining to do.

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From:helianthas
Date:March 22nd, 2011 01:56 am (UTC)
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That bunny totally just got caught with its paw down its pants...
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From:dragonvyxn
Date:March 22nd, 2011 04:23 am (UTC)
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well, that's awesome! i totally agree that we should be more open and all about talking about sex, because sex is normal, and it's not ok that women end up so isolated in their sexual selves. i actually had my first orgasm in my sleep like a couple weeks or a month ago or something, and it was really unusual for me, but very cool. i've had lots of sex dreams of various sorts, but never get to any sort of orgasm at all, just really frustrated, which is sorta annoying. i'm sure there are lots of women who have orgasms in their dreams or sleep, but we don't hear about it because no one talks about it.
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From:tatjna
Date:March 22nd, 2011 04:33 am (UTC)
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It seems, from my unscientific survey of the few people willing to talk about it, that it's relatively common.

Also, I have no shame. ;-)
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From:khaybee
Date:March 22nd, 2011 09:58 am (UTC)
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Although I find wet dreams not uncommon, they tend to be of a sexual nature. It was not until I began taking a drug that listed "spontaneous orgasm" on the list of side effects that I began having orgasms during nonsexual dreams. (I might add that these orgasms were extremely intense and disorienting).
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From:weeweekittie
Date:March 22nd, 2011 05:09 pm (UTC)
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I was only able to successfully have them when I was pregnant. Happy side effect. And I say "successfully" because I do often have those feelings in dreams, but I never get all the way to the orgasm. Like "I'm almost there.... aaaalllllmmmoooost there... Oh, ponies!" and then there I go onto something else in my dream.
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From:tatjna
Date:March 22nd, 2011 05:49 pm (UTC)
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Hahahaha whereas I'm all like "Paddocks full of ponies, paddocks full of ponies... Oh orgasm!" And then go back to the ponies.

I blame cross-circuited neural wiring. *nod*
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From:victoria7
Date:March 23rd, 2011 12:34 am (UTC)
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I wanked a lot more when I was having regular sex and I, also, had lovely sex dreams then, too. Mostly not about my partner, but sexy men who I could never remember. I'm not sure if I had orgasms in the dreams, but I definitely woke up with sex on my mind.

Now that I'm single with low self-esteem, there is hardly any wanking (seriously, I could count on my one hand the number of times in the past several years) and absolutely no sexy dreams. I think it's sad.
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