tatjna (tatjna) wrote,


Today is apparently National Coming Out Day. According to the Wikipedia article, its

"National Coming Out Day (NCOD) is an internationally observed civil awareness day for coming out and discussion about gay, lesbian, bisexual, asexual and transgender (LGBT) issues."

It's not that I didn't know what coming out day was about, I was just, as always, wondering which nation it was the National Day for. Apparently National Coming Out Day is international! Yes I think they should change the name, of course I do, duh.

Because if there's anything I've learned from Teh Internetz, it's that being heterosexual and cisgendered sidelines much of what I would have to say. But anyone who wants to tell me I'm not allowed to express my concern and disgust over the LGBTetc issues that have been in the news this past week can go fuck themselves in the ear. It makes me sad that at the moment, these issues are overshadowing positive stories in mainstream awareness. A friend of mine wrote a piece yesterday about what happened in New York in the context of the current economic downturn in the US, I'm hoping she'll give me permission to link to it because I believe it's telling, and it's also chilling.

I've also seen a lot said on both sides of the debate about the "It Gets Better" YouTube thing started by Dan Savage. On one side, people think it's great because it's offering positive stories to young people struggling with their sexuality and as Dan said when he dreamed up the idea, it's a form of mentoring in a society that (often still) disallows f2f mentoring of young LGBTetc people. On the other, Dan is white, cisgendered, male and middle class, which puts him in an advantaged position in terms of how much better it gets and how fast, and there is fear that the campaign is giving people false hope which may lead to further despair when the hope doesn't come to fruition. I can see both sides, and honestly don't know what to think. I say "It gets better" to my son quite regularly, because being a teenager is hard and being an adult, while still hard, is better than being a teenager. So I have no problem with the message in general, and don't feel qualified to speak to the rest.

Meanwhile, I won't be retweeting the thing that's going around Twitter. It's not that I don't have gay, lesbian, bisexual, or transgendered friends in my life that I love & accept unconditionally - it's the implicit "jump on this meme or you are a bad person" subtext behind pretty much all the retweet/facebook status memes, that brings out the contrary apeth in me that goes "Shan't!"

And since beagl didn't link to it, I will:

Pregnant and menstruating women asked to respect Maori custom and reschedule visits to the Taonga Maori exhibition.

Kiwiblog labels this 'superstitious bullshit'. Yes, the man who wrote this piece actually did decide to speak on behalf of women (normally this blog is known for its somewhat backward views on women) and use us as a weapon for some Maori-bashing. How convenient. WARNING: that post is pretty incendiary.

Meanwhile, the debate develops over at beagl's. Not to derail or yoink, but I'm interested in hearing what people have to say on this, because I'm seeing a distinct gender separation of views on the feminism vs culture question over there.
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