Your psi hoop is made and has been sent express delivery. You should have it by Monday August the 6th.
(ok i lied about the love bit) But, *SQUEE* Only six sleeps! *fidgets*
What the hell is so appealing about neediness?
This morning, in response to a comment wherein someone said hearing "I need you" is sexy, I wrote this:
"It's a strange one, that. Because the words 'I need you' seem affirming, and give one a sense of being strong, competent and, well, needed. Yet, the reality of being actually needed places a heavy responsibility on a person - basically the responsibility for the needy person. Which is fine if you're a control freak or if you actually do want to be that needed, but not so much if it's actually the case - if your absence (in any way) will actually spell breakdown for the other person.
I think this is where there's a difference between interdependence and codependence. For me, I want to be wanted, desired, loved, respected, admired, all that good stuff - but when it comes to being literally needed, it goes beyond what I'm able to emotionally deal with in terms of my responsibility to another. I immediately start thinking about the 'what ifs' - what if i can't be what that person needs me to be? etc.
I will disclaim this little essay by saying that I think my experience of being needed may colour my view of what need actually is. When my SO is not around, I miss him, and I want to be with him. Being with him makes my life better. But I would never insist that I need him to be around for my survival (emotional or physical) - that would place an unfair responsibility on him for what is actually my stuff to deal with, and put him in a position where if he accepted that need, he would become responsible for me. You know?"
And yet I see neediness and dependence being encouraged. And some people find it sexy. What's with that? I don't get it.
In other news, the Boy Next Door just got a whole lot more interesting. Hehe.
And work has gone insane. All of it. If it were a horse, we'd shoot it out of mercy.