tatjna (tatjna) wrote,
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Are you telephone avoidant? I am.

I am so full! And I thoroughly recommend Tandoori Heritage for Indian food. Especially the lassi. Mmm, lassi... thank you so much, Kim!

This week I have worn a skirt every day. It's been an interesting experience. My legs have enjoyed the freedom (you can feel the air even with tights on), stockings are my new favourite thing, and I have to say I got a kick out of being looked at. This may become a habit. It's much easier to look nice in a skirt. Also, I'm thinking of haircuts. It's time for a change. Any suggestions?


"The irreducible minimum for any conversation is two participants. And to reduce the conversation to its barest essentials, the two participants would have to be out of sight of each other, in that way eliminating the interference of facial expressions, gestures, posture, attire, and so on. A telephone conversation provides exactly such a situation. Because of the absence in a telephone conversation of the physical cues that determine the first speaker, a convention has arisen that the person who answers the phone is the one to speak first. So unconsciously do people accept this convention that even the obscene caller follows it. He may be a psychopath and a violator of society's rules, but nevertheless he will tend to obey at least this convention and not usually unleash his obscenities until he hears a female speak into the phone.

It is a strange rule that designates the person answering the call to speak first. After all, the caller is the one who possess all the information. He knows his own identitiy, the identity of the person whose number he is calling, and what he wishes to convey by the call. The person on the answering end could decide to violate the convention by picking up the receiver and remaining silent. In that case, the caller would probably utter a hesitant Hello? as if checking whether or not the phone was working. The person on the answering end would now possess at least some information: a clue to the identification of the caller's voice. Such a strategy, though, violates accepted behaviour for the use of the telephone; it irritates the caller and sometimes it prevents a conversation altogether because the caller may simply hang up." ~ Peter Farb

Usually when our phone rings, it's either Mum or someone trying to sell us something (a practice I find really annoying - no I don't want to talk about air conditioning while eating my dinner, if I wanted air conditioning I would phone them). The only reason we have a landline at all is because it comes with the cable package that provides whizzy internet. Most of my non-f2f communication is done in text these days, which provides information about the person contacting you before you find out what they want and gives you the opportunity to ignore it altogether. The phone, once you have answered it, ties you into communicating with the person on the other end, even briefly. I have never been a big fan of talking on the phone anyway, and nowadays it has become almost obsolete. I'm wondering if a time will come when the telephone is scrapped altogether as a communication device.

This book was written when telephones were the most modern communication device, and I'd be interested to read a similar study on the conventions that have arisen around texting and email.


Also, know how the other day I mentioned having 'issues' with my mp3 player and the lack of pockets to carry it? Well, I'm not alone. This morning I noticed around 8 other people walking along, 'phones on, holding their little devices in one hand and their bag in the other. No arm swinging to be seen. Is this clothing anachronism producing a generation of people who've forgotten how to move their shoulders when walking?

Finally, Happy Birthday to Si *sigh* (hee hee) and Dylan! Whee! Yay birthdays! Have a fun and exciting day, K?

[EDIT] For some inexplicable reason I can't log in to gmail today. 404 not found, I cuss vehemently in your general direction. So yeah, I'm not ignoring you and haven't skipped the country - yet.
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