I have a size 16 chest with size 10 boobs. My nipples are high and pointy. One boob is bigger than the other. The only reason I wear a bra at all is because I don't want to be seen poking gentlemen in the eye with my nipples on a cold day and thus people making the frowny-face at me. Mainly, I get around this by wearing sports-type bra tops, that round everything off and cover it up nicely, while still being relatively comfortable. It's not like they need support. My manly pecs hold them up.
So today, it's warm and also Friday, so the dress standard is a bit slacker and I'm wearing a T-shirt. It's a nice T-shirt. It has little cap sleeves that make my arms look nice, and a deep V neckline that is kind of feminine and also cool (in the not warm kind of way). I like my T-shirt. But I can't wear sports tops with it because they all show inside the neckline and even I am not so nerdy as to think that looks good. So I'm digging through my drawer for something else. Push-up? Nah, thin T-shirts and push-up bra equals "Hello? Small-breasted woman trying to look bigger over here! Please point and laugh now." So called T-shirt bra? You'd think so, now wouldn't you? But - why do they make T-shirt bras with a freaking seam up the middle of the cup that ends in a dart right on the nipple? This dart, at the end of it, makes a freaking point! Right on top of the nipple! So, either you line up the pointy bit with your nipple, thus defeating the purpose of trying to stop them from sticking out.. or, you don't. You walk around looking like you have four nipples. "Hi! I'm a freak! Pointing and laughing welcomed here."
So, that leaves the underwire. The Dreaded Underwire. Yup, the cup fits. And yup, My nipples are tamed into submission. No visible bits inside the neckline for me. But... FFS there is a gap between my boobs people! My chest is not a W, it's a U-U and when you put the damn underwires too close together, it puts my boobs in an unnatural position and digs in! Also, my wee breasts may be wee, but they are bigger than the radius of the circle you use to make the underwire. So although everything looks ok, that bright, faraway look in my eye? It's not satisfaction at my acceptable appearance. It's not remembrance of some happy tryst (hah!). It's not even speculation as to what you'd look like with your clothes off (although.. for certain people.. *cough* anyway..). It's me wondering how soon I can end this conversation so I can stick my thumb down my top and relieve the pressure - or maybe just looking forward to going home and taking the damn thing off.
I'm wondering if I have the balls to start a no-bra movement - one that thumbs its nose at convention and proudly waves its nipples in people's faces in thin T-shirts. If I can't have modesty and comfort, maybe I should vote for comfort. However, I'm sensitive about this issue. I used to go around with no bra and at one point (aged about 21) I was accused of trying to steal people's husbands because of "blatantly displaying my body." That was around the point I started dressing asexually.
So. People, what do you think? Is a woman wearing no bra (who doesn't need one - yes I understand about the support needs of the more well-endowed girls out there) blatantly displaying her body? Do you notice? If you do, is it a good or a bad thing? Male and female opinions would be most welcomed. I want to know if I'm being silly, sacrificing comfort for some fallacious idea that people might think less of me because of how I'm not-dressed?
And before you go saying "It doesn't matter what other people think" - in this case, it does. My life experience has showed me how what other people think about these things can affect your life.
So, no-bra and T-shirt - OK or not?