May 20th, 2014

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What kind of vert are you?

There's a thing that's been bugging me for a while, and I'm not sure if I can articulate it effectively. So because I'm like that, I'm going to give it a go anyway.

It's about introversion and extraversion.



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So, introvert or extravert? Who knows? Most people seem to peg me as an extravert. My best guess is that it's not a dichotomy at all, as people would have us believe, but a spectrum. Some of us may fall closer to either end, but the vast majority, like me, are somewhere in the middle. I happen to believe that Dr Wheel falls closer to the introvert end of the spectrum than I do, but he still has some extraverted tendencies, and I love him for both. I want to understand both. Being introverted does not make one better, deeper, or more deserving of understanding than being extraverted, especially given that most of us lean both ways depending on situation and our own inner condition at the time.

So I kind of wish that people would remember that reading something and identifying with a significant amount of it can also be known as selection bias, and that in the case of introversion this may well come from the perception that introversion is special and more worthy of other people's effort to understand. Personally, I think it wouldn't hurt to understand a bit about all of our extraverted tendencies as well. So in order to shunt that along a bit, I found this. It's one of the rare 'How To Care For Your Extravert' pieces, and it's quite good.

I suggest reading it - there may be more to identify with in there than the world would have you believe.

Finally, that thing up there about how to care for your introvert? Seems to me that a lot of that is merely courteous behaviour that should be extended to anyone regardless of what label they apply to their personality type. Just a thought.