September 6th, 2012

happy

Not very motherly

OK so most of the people on my flist are either childfree, or have young ones that have yet to sprout body hair and roomsful of hungry friends. But I know some of you must be parents of people who are now adults living on their own. I have a question for you: How long after they left home did you reclaim their room for your own nefarious purposes?

Don't get me wrong, I'm not chasing the YoT out the door yet (shit, he hasn't even left school!) but the preparations for independence are underway and it seems that it won't be that long in the grand scheme of things before he's off on his own. And while part of me is going "OMG did I do a good enough job will he be ok why is this recession now?" and another part of me is perfectly aware that it took me a few goes to leave home properly, still another part of me would love to have a space to do my projects in and is eyeballing his room with avarice.

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However, I'm getting ahead of myself. Right now, the YoT has entitlement on that third room and my projects live in a cupboard. But I can see myself very quickly changing that after he leaves home. I do have some scruples and am not in there with a measuring tape making noises about what I'll do when he's not there or anything. I do wonder though, how long after your offspring leaves home is it appropriate to reclaim their room? Bearing in mind that in this economy he's likely to boomerang a few times before he's properly left?