November 25th, 2011

erotically codependent

A post about Thanksgiving because you haven't read enough of those yet

Today my flist is all about Thanksgiving. This isn't surprising, the English-speaking part of LJ is dominated by the United States. I'm trying to get my head around what Thanksgiving is and how it relates to holidays we celebrate here. I mean, I know what it's about in terms of history and I'm aware that there are a bunch of different ways of looking at it. But it also seems to be a very unifying thing. Maybe I'm wrong about this, but it seems everyone (or at least everyone whose life I'm lucky enough to glimpse) celebrates it in some form, and that there are some important commonalities, one of which seems to be eating a lot, turkeys are involved apparently, a family gathering, and something about football.

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I think this is an oversight on the part of New Zealand as a society. It sucks that we go for nearly five months through the darkest, yuckiest time of the year with no holiday to break it up. Some of us celebrate the solstice and others Matariki, but neither of these is officially recognised with a day off and both are still in June/July - too early. We need something in late August/early September I reckon. There's been some talk about creating a 'New Zealand Day***' but I doubt folks would adopt it as a feast day, and am wondering if we need something blatant like Spring Feast Day or some such.

I can't be the only person that kind of envies the US winter feast holidays and would happily adopt something like that here given the opportunity. Any thoughts?

* yes we have those people, much as it hurts to admit it.
** Not so much the lotus paste ones, but I suspect that's my Western palate being a wanker.
*** Problematic as. First, many think it should replace Waitangi Day (WUT). Never mind the erasure involved in calling it that. Aotearoa Day, anyone? And still, is this something we should celebrate?

Dr Wheel got on a plane last night. He'll be landing in Hong Kong in a couple of hours. There was a Joel-shaped indentation on the bed when I got home. I might have laid in it.


OK so this has been doing the rounds on Twitter: "Mum, I need your help". It's a site dedicated to convincing your Mum to vote for a particular set of values.

As a Mum, I find it insulting as hell.

"All I dream about is what your generation had -" thus follows a list of things 'my generation' did not actually have.

Then follows a bunch of information about various issues. I know they only have a small space, I know it's oversimplified, and it's obviously designed to tug some heartstrings and play to compassion. I have no problem with that. But..

"I know you think of me already, and I don’t want to be pushy, but this election we’re at a crossroads, we’re deciding on the long-term path from here."

"Oh gosh, nope, I had no idea that this election was so important, thank you child for enlightening my ignorance with your wisdom and telling me how things are. After all, I'm a Mum, how could I possibly know these things without being told by you?"


And of course my main question is, "Why Mums? What about Dads?" Well apparently, "Because, when we're searching for answers, it tends to be the wisdom and nurturing hearts of our mums that guides us."

Because I apparently have fucking nurturing heart, through virtue of having pushed something the size of a watermelon out my vagina. And while my wisdom guides 'us', I am not wise enough to decide who to vote for without my kid's photo being attached to some patronising website and sent to me.

I know the guy's heart's in the right place, but I just feel patronised, insulted and stereotyped. Am I overreacting or do others see this too?

By the way, I voted Green - based on my research and understanding of politics and policy in combination with my values. And I didn't need to be told to do it by anyone else, mmk?