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More past-blasting - Tactical Ninja

Nov. 25th, 2014

08:57 am - More past-blasting

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You know how this year has been the year for reconnecting with people from my past? Well it happened again.

This time, in the course of dealing with the troll from yesterday, I had cause to check my 'other messages' on Facebook, and lo and behold there was one from Dave. The Dave, as in my ex from when I was shepherding out Tinui and working as a youth tutor in Porirua. Dave who was instrumental in me realising that actually I'm a pretty good parent, who helped me get out of casual labour and into salaried work, and who, despite how it ended (badly), was the first person to give me an inkling of what actual love felt like.

Last time I saw him I wasn't over him. That was 2004. It was awkward and uncomfortable and afterwards I told him I wasn't keen to see him any more. Ten years later, I was glad to hear from him. We met for coffee and had a good long chat and caught up, and laughed our heads off together. We both look a bit different these days, but not so much that the people we were isn't still visible. It was nice to be in a headspace where we could just hang out, be reminded of why we liked each other in the first place. He's off to the Ross Sea for three months next week, but we agreed to try and keep in touch. I think I'd like that.

I do wonder who else is going to come out of the woodwork this year. There's not much of this year left (Christmas carols in the mall that I walk through to get to my work), so they'd better hurry..

In other news, turns out I can put both feet behind my head and cross them. Just. Buy hey, I count that. Given how much I struggle with every other aspect of contortion, I'm stoked that there is this one thing that feels almost easy.

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From:du_secondaire
Date:November 24th, 2014 11:49 pm (UTC)
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I like reconnecting with old people from my past.

In 2012, an ex-BF I hadn't spoken to in ten years wanted to make amends and become friends again, and now he's one of my best friends. It's funny how stuff like that works out.
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From:meathiel
Date:November 25th, 2014 07:47 pm (UTC)
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If it's a good thing from the past then it's ... good! ;-)
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From:plantgirl
Date:November 27th, 2014 12:53 am (UTC)
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That's great that things were easy between you & Dave. It's nice when that happens.

I've had it go the other way. For example meeting an ex for lunch and the entire time the tune in my head is "Oh my god, I can't believe I ever went there and I'm so glad I'm not involved with him/her anymore."

I decided to take it as proof of my personal growth, rather than berating myself for making such a poor choice back when.
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From:plantgirl
Date:December 3rd, 2014 09:49 pm (UTC)
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I forgot to mention that the feet behind the head thing is a huge accomplishment, and makes my joints ache just thinking about it. Congrats!

:)
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