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Nek minute: Cats and dogs, living together - Tactical Ninja

Oct. 1st, 2013

09:28 am - Nek minute: Cats and dogs, living together

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So I cancelled my gym membership.

"WTF Tats?!? I thought you were a dedicated gym rat with the muscles and the protein shakes and stuff?"

Well, yes. And I want to be able to press a handstand and use my body well into my old age and all that good stuff.


My lifestyle has changed quite a lot.

For a start I now spend half an hour to an hour per day walking to and from work. On really crappy days or if I have bags of stuff I catch the bus, but otherwise I walk. I also have a garden and a lawn to take care of and this involves a lot of digging and pushing of mowers and general use of my body for hard stuff. The other cool thing about having a garden is that it's a good place to practice doing handstands. So basically I'm not short of the opportunities for exercise that I need.

I have also signed up for an adagio class this term at the circus hub, because Happy is less broken and seems somewhat unafraid of the potential for me to headbutt him in the nuts, therefore I have someone to climb on and that makes adagio infinitely more appealing. And practice opportunities for that have become easier with the move too.

The other thing is that the things I've been doing at the gym lately are not things that require a gym to do. I do a lot of bodyweight exercises, stretching, and handstand practice. These things don't use equipment and if I'm to be completely honest the space at the gym is not ideal for handstand practice anyway, because it's full of equipment and other people. In contrast, the circus hub has a practice club - so if I really wanted to use an indoor space to practice handstands, I could join that for less expense. But to be honest, right now I think I'm muddling along fine on my own. If that changes in future I'll revisit my decision.

Meanwhile, our apartment still hasn't rented. We have dropped the rent considerably to the point where it's now below what we know other apartments in the same building are getting. There is nothing wrong with the apartment, it's apparently just a difficult time of year, in fact it's the time when most tenancy managers go on holiday, so while we aren't too worried, it is a financial burden we could do without. We are hoping that the reason we didn't get our Monday check-in from our guy is that he's busy closing a rental arrangement and waiting to give us the good news.

However, we can't bank on that and right now we are paying rent and a mortgage at the same time. While I'm managing my end of this without eating into my savings, it is leaving me with practically zero disposable income and things like the gym become luxuries at that point. I was looking for places to tighten my belt, and given that my natural patterns of exercise have shifted and I'm not going to the gym as often lately anyway, I figure it's time.

So yeah, not giving up, just changing my approach.


I would like to add that while the current situation is a bit of a push, I feel very privileged to even be able to contemplate making the decision we have. I am very aware that this is enabled by having two decent incomes and another part time one contributing to our household. I am still gobsmacked every time I think about this, because part of my mind is still in the financial scarcity mode that it has spent most of its life in. I hope I never become complacent about financial security, but I can see how it happens, you know?

The decision to move has been a really, really good one in all other aspects. Our new place is quiet, roomy, sunny and pleasant. It has a garden! I didn't realise how much I'd missed having a garden until I got one again. And I find myself laughing a lot more these days.

What's not to like?

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From:ferrouswheel
Date:September 30th, 2013 08:42 pm (UTC)
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Covering mortgage and rent has left me also feeling like I'm in scarcity mode, in that I'm avoiding making purchases until the situation changes and I feel like I'm in a similar position to when I was doing startup stuff without being paid. But I'm also glad for the change! Almost 4 years of living in apartments, while often convenient, has also made me forget about the pleasures of having space to do things (including outdoor space) along with peace and privacy.
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From:tatjna
Date:September 30th, 2013 08:44 pm (UTC)
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Luckily, this has a foreseeable end and is not subject to the vagaries of startups. I hope. O.o

I love how one of the things that came with peace, privacy and space is your innate ability to make me laugh till I almost wet myself. <3
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From:rivet
Date:September 30th, 2013 08:53 pm (UTC)
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Congratulations on your newfound gymlessness. I hope that works well for you.

The right answer at one point may not be the right answer at a different point. I'm growing to love that about life. I used to try to get things nailed down, and felt like reversing a decision was backsliding. Now I get that there are a lot of awesome options, and many of them can be the right one *for now* without having to be a lifetime commitment :)
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From:tatjna
Date:September 30th, 2013 08:55 pm (UTC)
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Yeah. I'm liking the bit where I can change my mind about something and the world doesn't actually end. ;-)
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From:anna_en_route
Date:September 30th, 2013 09:08 pm (UTC)
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It seems like you're getting better at prioritising your happiness?

Considering the work (yay Yorick!) you're producing it looks like it is really paying off for you =)
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From:tatjna
Date:September 30th, 2013 10:13 pm (UTC)
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I am seriously enjoying having time and space to do things that make me happy. I have decided to dedicate another year to that and see if I'm prepared to give a little bit up next year.
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From:tyellas
Date:September 30th, 2013 09:26 pm (UTC)
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Do you have a link to the apartment listing? Would it be helpful if some of us let our friends know? Many of my burlesque acquaintances value convenient downtown living spaces.
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From:tatjna
Date:September 30th, 2013 09:29 pm (UTC)
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Here's the link. The more people who know about it the better, I reckon. ;-)
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From:tyellas
Date:September 30th, 2013 10:18 pm (UTC)
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Thanks. I note that you don't mention your quieting/warming double glazing in the ad?
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From:tatjna
Date:October 1st, 2013 12:29 am (UTC)
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I have drafted an alternative copy that emphasises the good things about the place a bit more, which I'll send to him later today.
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From:rivet
Date:October 1st, 2013 06:01 am (UTC)
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Have you considered the absurdist/artistic approach? http://terriblerealestateagentphotos.com/
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From:pombagira
Date:September 30th, 2013 09:31 pm (UTC)
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From:tatjna
Date:September 30th, 2013 10:13 pm (UTC)
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<3 (totally lips, not a heart or a pair of bollocks)
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From:pombagira
Date:September 30th, 2013 10:28 pm (UTC)
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yup totally lips...


o.O


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From:ecosopher
Date:September 30th, 2013 10:39 pm (UTC)
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Nothing is not to like! Sounds pretty good to me. I've always preferred gardening over the gym (although obviously I also understand the attraction of the latter).
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From:tatjna
Date:September 30th, 2013 10:41 pm (UTC)
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I am pretty sure I can feel a difference in my general demeanour just through spending more time outdoors, too.

*happy*
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From:meathiel
Date:October 1st, 2013 05:22 am (UTC)
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Yay for laughing more ... seems the move was a very good decision. I'm keeping my fingers crossed you can rent out the apartment soon!
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