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Dec. 29th, 2012

12:45 pm - I R FASHUNISTA (not)

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OMG Tats, what the hell is going on there?




You will see that I'm wearing jeans. What this means is that I bought jeans, and what that means is that yesterday was my annual clothes shopping expedition. You see, I looked at my retrospective 2012 post and realised that there was a bunch of resignation in there that I needn't be feeling, that I could change some of that.

I'd mentioned I was bored with my wardrobe and the reality for me is that it goes a bit deeper than that - I'd got into that rut where I just wear what's easy and I know works and thus end up wearing the same thing over and over again. While there's nothing wrong with that, for me it kind of symbolises complacency and laziness, taking the easy road and not trying new things. And some of my old favourites are wearing out. So, shopping time.

I'm not that good at shopping. For a start I have no idea what size I am, and I have this tendency to desire clothes that don't suit me so I have to be quite careful with the "Will I really wear this?" question when trying things on. And also, Cuba St (where I live) is the home of many second hand shops. Here, we call them op shops. They range from what the US would call goodwill (ie the Sallies) to places that sell vintage clothing for $100 a pop. I looked in all of them. There's one called Hunters and Collectors and the woman in there is one of those ultra-hipster types and she was staring at me. She was probably just contemplating her lunch, but in my head she was judging my level of fashionable-ness and finding me unworthy to be in her shop. So I ran away, because I'm that confident in my shopping ability. Hipster isn't really my style anyway...

So it took about three hours, the first of which I bought nothing, and took me from the Sallies through all the second hand shops, to Cosmic (hippie/rave gear), and the Farmers/Glassons/etc mainstream standard shops. In the end I was quite pleased with my purchases. I spent $200, and came home with 3 tops, 4 skirts, a dress and a pair of jeans. And some shoes, because I realised that I wear my stompy boots or skatey shoes almost everywhere, and it's about time I tried to wear different shoes too. It's a rough split between workwear and not workwear, and some can double as both. Score!

Meanwhile, I used to live in jeans, back when I was trying to prove I was as good as a man. Then when I moved to Wellington I completely went off them as a kind of rejection of my previous life, and for the last decade or so the only jeans I've worn have been my shearing ones - Mum jeans defined, essentially. Now, finally, I think I'm back in a place where I can wear jeans and not feel like a bogan. I probably look like one (it's one of my superpowers), but hey, who cares. But I also bought this top:



Which I really like. And I bought a couple of other items that suit me but are outside my usual style, in a conscious effort to start doing new things and stepping out of my comfort zone. Today I'm wearing jeans and a floral scoop necked top. I look relatively normal, but it's unusual for me. I wore another of the new tops out last night and got complimented on it several times, so I call that a win.


This morning I recoloured my hair and actually found myself getting excited about wearing my new clothes, for the first time in .. probably since before Mum got sick to be honest. It feels good to want to do a new thing.

The other thing I figure I can change quite easily, is to make an effort to talk to more people in social situations. If I want to meet new people, I have to talk to them. A conversation the other day reminded me that it doesn't have to be deep, but making the effort to connect with people when you're around them can pay big dividends in terms of expanding relationships. So that's my plan, and I started it by not letting my self-doubt prevent me accepting an invitation for a New Years fun thing, and talking to everyone at Fidels last night. Hey, this is a big deal for me!

Yes folks, it's true. I can't even buy a pair of jeans without turning it into navel-gazing session. ;-)

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From:myrrhmade
Date:December 28th, 2012 11:48 pm (UTC)
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Really gorgeous!
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From:tatjna
Date:December 28th, 2012 11:52 pm (UTC)
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Thank you! ;-)

I used to post lots of pictures of clothes on the internet, but somehow I got out of the habit and now I'm thinking maybe I should do it a bit more again. It's a bit risky, putting myself out there like that, but fuckit my life could do with a bit of risk in it these days..
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From:myrrhmade
Date:December 28th, 2012 11:56 pm (UTC)
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I understand the risk element. I'm allergic to pics of me, tbh. I get it. However, I loved these pics of yours!
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From:tatjna
Date:December 29th, 2012 04:08 am (UTC)
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We aim to please. ;-)
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From:polychrome_baby
Date:December 29th, 2012 12:07 am (UTC)
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Stepping out of one's comfort zone often leads to greatness.

Here is a wonderful example, you look fantastic.
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From:tatjna
Date:December 29th, 2012 04:01 am (UTC)
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D'aww, thank you!

Although, it's kind of funny that jeans and a black top are outside my comfort zone..
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From:damnitnicole
Date:December 29th, 2012 12:33 am (UTC)
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Lookin' good!

I do kind of the same thing, with the laziness in clothes. I tend to have sort of a uniform, and will often just wear the same clothes day after day until they smell. (I do change socks and undies daily.)

When I realized this, I started shopping for attractive and stylish versions of my uniform. I still have all my old ratty band tees, but have been slowly working them out of circulation, replaced by newer, fitter tees with similar sorts of band logos and other graphics. Switching (back) from bootcut to skinny jeans (which I've always preferred anyway) also made a big difference in how "dressed" I look, as has experimenting with patterns on my jeans, so I can still wear a black undershirt tank top when I feel like it.

I have a few bright colored or otherwise awesome blouses, and a good amount of solid colored cami tank tops and long-sleeved fitted tees, and they work really well for the rare occasions when none of my million shirts with skulls on them is appropriate.
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From:tatjna
Date:December 29th, 2012 04:05 am (UTC)
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I'm not sure I could go for skinny jeans - partly because I remember them from the first time round (supertaper is what they were called in the olden days), and partly because I feel like they're a teenager thing (no offence, here it's mostly teenagers that wear them) and I'm no teenager.

But that's a good idea, just nudging your style a bit to make it more interesting. Hmm..
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From:ms_hecubus
Date:December 29th, 2012 01:36 am (UTC)
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You have a good body for jeans. But jeans are best judged by how your ass looks so turn around!
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From:tatjna
Date:December 29th, 2012 03:57 am (UTC)

Mah arse

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I was very surprised once on a trip to LA to discover that the mannequins in jeans shops there are turned to face arse-outwards. It makes perfect sense - everyone wants to know what their arse looks like in jeans - but it's something you just don't see here.
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From:ms_hecubus
Date:December 29th, 2012 03:58 am (UTC)

Re: Mah arse

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Yes! Those are excellent jeans! :D
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From:tatjna
Date:December 29th, 2012 03:59 am (UTC)

Re: Mah arse

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Tee hee, thank you! ;-)
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From:helianthas
Date:December 29th, 2012 02:38 am (UTC)
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Vavavavoom! You have an amazing figure! I vaguely remember you wanting to change your weight, please don't, you look perfect! Ps love your hair too. Looking all around fabulous! Moar pics pls!
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From:helianthas
Date:December 29th, 2012 02:47 am (UTC)
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So purty, I love the look you are giving the camera in that first one. Most excellent.
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From:tatjna
Date:December 29th, 2012 04:00 am (UTC)
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I have lost all the weight I want to, and even though most people wouldn't notice a difference, I do and I'm happy with it.

I intend to take more pics because it requires me to be brave so I reckon it'll be good for me. Yup.
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From:gemmagic
Date:December 29th, 2012 05:58 am (UTC)
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You really do look great and it's so good that you're happy with your size. There's so much shit in daily life that tries to brainwash us to feel insecure so that we'll spend more money, so it's really powerful to feel happy in your own skin. It's something I am working on.
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From:gemmagic
Date:December 29th, 2012 02:46 am (UTC)
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You look terrific! :D I love your hair. I'm glad you had a fun time buying clothes. I bought a couple of things in the after-xmas sales too. :)
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From:tatjna
Date:December 29th, 2012 03:59 am (UTC)
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Show meeeeee! I want to see your stuff!

I didn't realise when I decided to do it but yeah, every shop I went into had loads of stuff at half price and it made it way more economical.
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From:gemmagic
Date:December 29th, 2012 05:51 am (UTC)
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OK, I might take pictures later. One thing was a pinky-purple mullet skirt for $5 from Rockmans! O.O I bought a couple of things online too. :)
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From:blue_eye
Date:December 29th, 2012 04:56 am (UTC)
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I have not felt good about shopping for clothes in a long time. Glad you had fun though...you look fabulous!
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From:meathiel
Date:December 29th, 2012 11:43 am (UTC)
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Really love the shirt ... it's purrty and suits you!
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From:medleymisty
Date:December 29th, 2012 07:52 pm (UTC)
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Oooh - you're pretty, and those jeans and the top look really good on you. Yay for the shopping and feeling good about your clothes and yourself (says the person who does wear the same thing all the time, but oh well). ;)

I'm with you on the learning I have to talk to people, only for me it's more here than IRL. And yeah - short and not deep can work, especially if you're like me and you're all "Deep or nothing!" and through limits on time and energy, it usually ends up being nothing.

I hope the New Years thing is indeed fun! :)
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