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Namey name names. Lots of them, it turns out. - Tactical Ninja

Oct. 1st, 2012

08:58 am - Namey name names. Lots of them, it turns out.

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This morning the enrolment information for next year's university courses arrived in email. I hesitated for about 0.0000005 seconds before deleting it. It felt good. I also spent a couple of hours yesterday outlining the last essay I will ever write as an undergraduate. It's not due for three weeks but fuckit I want it to be over so I'm doing it in advance so I don't have to think too hard about it.

I WILL TAKE MY FREEDOM BY INCHES! RAR!

Meanwhile, cynical_ghost is getting her meme on so I thought I'd nick it.


It's one of those 'answer a question a day' ones. I've never finished one of those because I get distracted with other things and forget, or get bored with it or whatever, but you never know, maybe this time? This one's a 30 day meme and since today's the first, it sort of works.

Yes I know October has 31 days but I plan on spending the 31st getting over my end-of-degree celebrations and packing to go to Melbourne, not writing on the internet about my navel fluff. Anyway, here goes:

01. Your name

I'm called Wendy. It was my parents' compromise - Dad wanted to call me Darlene (dunno about you but here, any name ending in -ene is generally a bogan name), and Mum wanted something that was hard to shorten or nickname-ise. Yeah, I know, they messed up.

Wendz. Wendini. Weedles. Bendy (always with the wiggly eyebrows), Trendy, Effendi. The best one? Allison Wendyland. That's cos my last name is Allison. I thought it was pretty clever tbh and much more original than Wendz, which is the most common one.

Wendy isn't a real name in the sense that Luke, Paul and Ruth are - it hasn't been around since biblical times. It's not a shortening of Gwendolyn either. Most people agree it was made up by JM Barrie for Peter Pan, but that link says there are two references in the English census from before the book was written. I think we can agree I got me a good British name anyway, which kind of makes me happy because as an expat, my cultural roots are important to me.

And yeah, the Peter Pan thing happens. A lot. The funniest was at the Fetish Ball one year when I was dressed in nothing but duct tape and a guy dressed as Peter Pan came up to me and introduced himself, then asked my name, and I said "Wendy" and, well.. yeah. *cough* And then there was that boyfriend called Peter in my early teens. And I did have a wendy-house when I was a kid. Well, Dad was a DIY-er and it was kind of inevitable, right?

I quite like my name. I think it suits me - but I would say that because I've been answering to it for 42 years. I don't answer to Darlene. Thank you Mum.

Tatjna, on the other hand, is a name I adopted when I found the internet. The first thing that happened was I realised I could talk to people in other countries for free, but to join in I had to have a username. I happened to be playing a game at the time that had pre-named characters and you could pick yours from the list. Mine was called Tatjna. She was athletic and hardcore and indestructible, and nobody else seemed to be using that name, so that's what I became. I've been Tatjna on the internet since about 1998, and for the most part I've always been able to get that name. If you google it, most of the hits on the first page are me, the rest are impostors. Or Russian brides. I get friended a lot by Russians because, well.. it's obvious really.

I do have some other names I use in various forums around the place. I use Snowcrash when I don't want my gender to be identified, and on videogame forums these days I'm usually Sparrow. Between those three names I have most of the internet covered. At least, so far. I've never had to resort to using numbers to get the name I want, anyway. Plz to not nick mah namez, internets!


I am unimpressed by the syncing thing that G+ seems to have provided that allows other people to put things in your calendar. I was invited to Burning Seed, right? It's been on this last week. I couldn't go and I said so right at the start. But because I was invited, it was put in my calendar, albeit with a strikethrough. I've tried to delete it a couple of times but can't find the button that lets me do that. It just takes me to the event page but doesn't allow me to remove it. So it syncs with my phone and reminds me every day that Burning Seed is on and I'm not there.

So, um, can someone tell me how to remove events from my calendar that other people put there by inviting me through G+? And if that's not possible, how about just don't use G+ to invite me to things, because it annoys more than helping. I am capable of putting things I want to go to in my calendar all by myself.

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From:cynical_ghost
Date:October 1st, 2012 05:40 am (UTC)
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I love the name Wendy. And I love that names can just be made up and suddenly they're names. If that makes sense. :-D

When I first got online I used a male name as my screen name to avoid creepy male interest, so I relate to using a gender-neutral one. (Funny story -- my husband messaged me thinking I was some cool guy who had cool interests and might want to hang out. It was WEEKS later when I told him I was female, hahahah! Surprise!)
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From:meathiel
Date:October 1st, 2012 10:47 am (UTC)
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Haha ... that's pretty cool!
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From:tatjna
Date:October 1st, 2012 07:24 pm (UTC)
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Heee, awesome!
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From:rivet
Date:October 1st, 2012 05:55 am (UTC)
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you can fix your G+ settings here https://www.google.com/settings/plus
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From:tatjna
Date:October 1st, 2012 07:31 pm (UTC)
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OK, thanks. I set it up so I don't get event notifications at all now. What I really wanted was just for events not to be automatically placed in my calendar, but that doesn't seem to be an option. Still, that works. ;-)
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From:rivet
Date:October 1st, 2012 09:52 pm (UTC)
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That seems like a pretty obvious thing to want, and it's dumb that they don't make that easy :/
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From:_fustian
Date:October 4th, 2012 06:26 am (UTC)
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It's not actually a G+ setting (because it relates to more than just G+ events), rather it's a Google Calendar setting called "Automatically add invitations to my calendar" (with options: "Yes", "Yes, but don't send event reminders unless I have responded 'Yes' or 'Maybe'", and "No, only show invitations to which I have responded").
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From:tatjna
Date:October 4th, 2012 08:56 am (UTC)
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That is useful information, thank you.
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From:_fustian
Date:October 4th, 2012 10:19 pm (UTC)
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np. I had to google it, btw, but recalled that this had been a Big Issue for some heavily-followed folks including Wil Wheaton and Linus Torvalds a couple of months ago, and so was aware a solution existed.

Do you still want to be specifically excluded from G+ event invites?
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From:tatjna
Date:October 4th, 2012 10:21 pm (UTC)
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I have all the settings so I don't get the invites anyway, so it doesn't really matter now. I have nothing against event invites or G+ specifically, just having them turn up in my calendar without warning. ;-)
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From:_fustian
Date:October 4th, 2012 10:50 pm (UTC)
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it doesn't really matter now

Not objecting makes it easier; people tend to invite entire circles to events, rather than individual friends.

having them turn up in my calendar without warning.

Yeah, it's a difficult UI choice whether to make new features automatic and risk pissing off the 10% of people who know enough to have switched the setting on themselves, or leave them optional and risk the possibility that they'll only ever being used by that 10%. An ethical service provider should at least provide an opt-out-on-first-use (eg. as a pop-over along the top of the window), although perhaps only to people who've selected "Alert me to new features so I can decide whether to use them" option in their profile settings. (Of course, no corporation can act in an ethical manner unless doing so coincides with its legal responsibility to maximise shareholder value — and thus corporations are entirely unsuited to the delivery of public goods such as communications.)
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From:goddessofchaos
Date:October 1st, 2012 11:16 am (UTC)
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Well, I'm named after a character from a book as well (Arwen from Lord of the Rings), although mine hasn't yet become as popular as Wendy! (And I've yet to meet an Aragorn, lol!)

My iPhone has now started putting events I'm invited to on Facebook into my calender =/
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From:tatjna
Date:October 1st, 2012 07:32 pm (UTC)
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Meeting an Aragorn would be equal parts awesome and awkward I reckon. There are some things you just oughtn't to name your kid, and that's one of them..

Also, Arwen is a beautiful name.
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From:dragonvyxn
Date:October 1st, 2012 05:03 pm (UTC)
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i like your name too! i like my name as well... it took me a while to get there though. i like this meme. since i'm sitting here nursing most of the day maybe i'll do that... even though i should be starting to outline a book i am trying to write. :-P
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From:tatjna
Date:October 1st, 2012 07:33 pm (UTC)
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I think you should totally do the meme. I'd like to read more from you. ;-)
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From:dragonvyxn
Date:October 1st, 2012 08:12 pm (UTC)
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i'll have to grab the questions from you and play the game... i haven't posted anything in ages. it would mostly be about how i saw yet another dog being mistreated or trained inappropriately, etc. i don't think i ever told you about the time i screamed "shut the fuck up" (and some follow up on how he's not educated etc.) at a lady for telling me to watch cesar millan so i could get dog behavior knowledge. my throat actually hurt for a couple days after that. never saw her again after that. she had talked to me because the dog i was with demand-barked at her upheld chuckit with a tennis ball in it and told me the dog was being aggressive. i explained what was really happening - her chuckit was the same color as mine and she was holding it up as though getting ready to throw the ball, which excited the dog. i told her that this dog yells at my chuckit too, telling me to hurry the heck up. she then reiterated that my dog was actually aggressive and told me to watch cm and i lost it.... i had also maybe been having a bad day, i think. most people would have understood, as holding a chuckit in the ready to throw pose would entice most dogs...i know i've seen that often enough :-P

sorry, that got long. reminiscing about work since i'm thinking about how to get back into it. and of course that story mostly makes me not want to work in that particular capacity again.... hehe.
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From:tatjna
Date:October 1st, 2012 10:13 pm (UTC)

Here you go

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01. Your name
02. All the places you've lived
03. Your first best friend
04. Your childhood fears
05. What you were like in high school
06. Your favourite and least favourite subjects at school
07. Your first boyfriend or girlfriend
08. Your oldest hobby
09. Your sexuality
10. What you look for in a partner
11. Your kids, or your feelings about having kids
12. Your pets, past and present
13. Foods you love and foods you hate
14. What your life was like ten years ago
15. How much alcohol you drink
16. Your worst illness
17. What you do at work
18. A question or comment people should never make to you
19. The style of clothing you feel most comfortable in
20. Whether you’re an extrovert or an introvert
21. Who you have a crush on
22. A friendship you lost
23. Three achievements you’re proud of
24. Your political views
25. Your religious beliefs
26. Your perfect night out
27. Whether you like to plan ahead or be spontaneous
28. What you look for in a friend
29. Whether you’re a night owl or a morning lark
30. How you would like people to remember you
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From:dragonvyxn
Date:October 1st, 2012 11:02 pm (UTC)

Re: Here you go

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thanks!
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From:pixiebelle
Date:October 1st, 2012 05:15 pm (UTC)
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I've never completed a 30 day meme.... I suck at that.

I used to hate my name, Kristen, because it just felt plain. But I've grown to love it and it's me all the way. I found out how much I love it when my boyfriend tried giving me a nickname because his sister is named Kristin. Nothing felt right. Kris is fine in moderation, but I like having a girl name.... Krissy? Maybe if I was 5.... </p>

Pixie was my nickname in high school because my friends said I had "Pixie" ears and looked like a Pixie. My best friend died last year and while Pixie seeks a little childish, I'll likely hold on to it because she gave me the name.

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From:tatjna
Date:October 1st, 2012 07:33 pm (UTC)
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I will always think of you as Pixie.

As an aside, there's someone in my wider acquaintance group whose name really is Pixie. It suits her. ;-)
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From:beatpig
Date:October 8th, 2012 08:50 pm (UTC)
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i likes this!
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