I do not consider this to be a comeuppance, oddly - Tactical Ninja
Dec. 14th, 2011
09:53 am - I do not consider this to be a comeuppance, oddly
So the other day I wrote about the ridiculous #childfree flamewar on Twitter, in which those who have appropriated the term 'childfree' as a name for themselves as a group tried to tell those who have children that they are not allowed to say they are childfree when their kids go away for the holidays. Because they are not free of children all the time they should not call themselves childfree when they are free of children.
I can see both sides - who can't? Well, those who are involved in the ongoing flamewar apparently can't.
I don't really have a dog in this fight, although as a parent I find the smug arrogance of certain childfree spokespeople to be irritating. There are a whole lot of assumptions behind the use of the word 'breeder', for example, that are insulting and derogatory to all who have children. It is possible to be intelligent and have reproduced. OMG call the media it's a revelation! The idea that someone who hasn't chosen the same lifestyle as you is clearly a) wrong and b) stupid is one that seems prolific among the childfree and many childfree people tend to be quite arrogant about it. Mostly it doesn't bother me and I can also see why it happens - society is geared towards those with children.* Add in the assumption that everyone will eventually have children and the pressure some people seem to feel entitled to put on those without children, and you get a recipe for defensiveness that emerges as smug arrogance in some people. It's not rocket science but I do wish those people would stop with the 'you have a child therefore you're stupid' line because it's .. childish.
* Think about how many 'family friendly' places exist, how many politicians campaign on 'family values', and how much of -everything- seems designed to cater to those with children.
Anyway, there's one person in particular who's been vociferous bordering on obnoxious on the childfree side. While she hasn't really got to being outright insulting, she's definitely in the smug and arrogant camp. Suffice to say that I don't agree with everything she says (although I do agree with some). It's been interesting because this woman is also pro-choice, and while I think she's being over-the-top on the childfree stuff, I also very much enjoyed watching her tear apart a pro-lifer in the same way. Because I'm human. Her behaviour is much more ok when I agree with her stance. Interesting, that.
However, she also has a blog and the other day she made a post to said blog about an incident when she was a teenager in which an unwatched child nearly drowned. She uses it to clarify the difference in how she uses the term 'breeder' vs 'parent'. Personally I think 'breeder' should be removed from the vocabulary but her distinction is at least a reasonable one.
Check out the comments though. There are only three, and one of them goes as follows:
FUCK YOU CUNT! You are such a slag on twitter.. go FUCK YOURSELF! If you are that concerned about overpopulation.. kill yourself already, the world would be a lot better off with out CUNT FACES like you!
Cunt. Slag. Kill yourself. Cunt face. Because this woman has been arrogant and opinionated on Twitter, some man (yes it's a man, check the email address that she published as a reply) takes it upon himself to tell her to commit suicide using insults based on her gender.
I wonder how this particular comment would have been made had she been a man? Or even if it would have been made? Remember the #mencallmethings debate? This is the kind of thing that set off that hashtag.
PS Santa got a new face: