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Those of you who've been around a while will know of the ongoing saga… - Tactical Ninja

Jan. 7th, 2016

09:07 am

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Those of you who've been around a while will know of the ongoing saga of my son's father's failure to pay Child Support, and the farce that is the IRD attempting *cough* to retrieve it. My son is now 20 and has been living away from home for about 18 months.

For the last three months running, I've received chunks of between $500 and $600 more or less out of the blue. Clearly they've finally caught up with him and got some kind of thing on his wages. Which means he's earning money, in a reliable enough way to have an employer to approach.

Sorry, I'm too cynical to think he's paying voluntarily. Not after 7 years of him not, you know?

Anyway, in the past when this has happened it hasn't lasted longer than four consecutive months, so I'm not getting my hopes up. However, if he does manage to maintain it, the debt will be paid in about 16 months. In the meantime, every time I receive a payment I split it in half, put one half in savings, and send the other to the YoT*.

So it's delayed, but my offspring is finally getting some support from his father, and it's probably more useful to him now that he has adult responsibilities and bills to pay, than it was back when he was a kid.

This is me being optimistic. How'm I doing?

* Youth of Today. My son's name in my LJ.

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From:mac_arthur_park
Date:January 6th, 2016 08:20 pm (UTC)
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You're doing really well!

I hope it keeps up.
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From:tatjna
Date:January 6th, 2016 08:22 pm (UTC)
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Thanks! I do too. Once it's done, I never have to think about that man again.
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From:m_danson
Date:January 6th, 2016 08:41 pm (UTC)
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From:ivonava
Date:January 6th, 2016 08:47 pm (UTC)
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Good news! It's all a bonus.
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From:siduri
Date:January 6th, 2016 09:11 pm (UTC)
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I hope it carries through, although I can understand be cautiously optimistic.
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From:fbhjr
Date:January 7th, 2016 02:01 am (UTC)
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I hope it keeps coming through!
Good on you for hoping. But, I wouldn't make any plans counting on it either...
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From:randomdreams
Date:January 7th, 2016 02:50 am (UTC)
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I feel like a large part of child support is intended to help the kid out developmentally. Sure, it's better than nothing, and you may have handled the upbringing without a problem, but, man, that's nothing like ideal.
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From:tatjna
Date:January 7th, 2016 02:58 am (UTC)
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Haha no kidding. Luckily for me, I was earning enough money during the period where no payments were coming that it didn't affect our lifestyle unduly. My kid was still able to participate in developmental activities, and I had always planned to give him half the money and have him clothe himself and pay for his own haircuts, snacks, going out etc. Instead I paid for that stuff, and now I'm getting paid back 7 years later and my kid just got the bond for his new flat.

It isn't ideal, but it kind of works and given I'd been expecting to never see the money, I'm also pretty amazed that it's happening at all.
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From:spiral_meter
Date:January 7th, 2016 03:52 am (UTC)
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money coming in is always a good thing.

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From:richaarde
Date:January 7th, 2016 04:12 am (UTC)
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At least you and YoT getting some of the money. You're right, if your son is freshly moved out of the house than he probably could use the money more than ever.
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From:meathiel
Date:January 7th, 2016 06:26 am (UTC)
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That is - indeed - a surprising development.
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From:kehleyr
Date:January 8th, 2016 09:51 pm (UTC)
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*sighs*... well... I have two older sisters who have both been involved with stupid men who they've had their children... so I'm not a stranger to idiots not paying in time! :-(
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